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April 15, 2016


Dag Heward-Mills

READ: 1 Timothy 3:1-15

This is a true saying, if a man desire the office of a bishop, he desireth a good work.
1 Timothy 3:1

Some people are called through their desires.

This is the way I received my calling. I did not have all the dramatic experiences that people speak about. I am constantly amazed when I hear of how people receive their call to the ministry . I have had no such dramatic encounters but I believe I am genuinely called by God. I did not see a light or hear any voices. Jesus has never appeared to me commissioning me to go into the world of ministry . Yet I believe that I am genuinely commissioned for ministry.

I remember once when a brother came to stay in my home for a weekend. Some months later he told me about an encounter that he had had with the Lord in my house. He was my guest and he was staying upstairs with the rest of the family. He described how one night, the door opened suddenly and the Lord Jesus entered the room. He told me how the Lord Jesus put something in his hand and told him that He had commissioned him for a great work.

I could not believe what I was hearing – Jesus appearing to a visitor in my house! As this brother continued to describe his encounter with the Lord, I became more and more angry but I could not show my anger. I had to pretend that I was happy about his encounter with Jesus.

However, in spite of the absence of such visions, the Lord has given me a ministry . Because I have not had such spectacular encounters, I can encourage others who have also not had such visions to believe in God and to believe in their callings.

Credit: Dag Heward-Mills



The Bible instructs, directs and encourages us to:

1.  Be silent In the heat of
     anger – (Prov 14:17)

2.  Be silent When you don’t
     have all the facts – (Prov

3.  Be silent When you
     haven’t verified the story –
     (Deut 17:6)

4.  Be silent If your words
     will offend a weaker
     person – (1 Cor 8:11)

5.  Be silent When it is time
     to listen – (Prov 13:1)

6.  Be silent When you are
     tempted to make light of
     holy things – (Eccl 5:2)

7.  Be silent When you are
     tempted to joke about
     sin – (Prov 14:9)

8.  Be silent If you would be
     ashamed of your words
     later – (Prov 8:8)

9.  Be silent If your words
     would convey the wrong
     impression – (Prov 17:27)

10. Be silent If the issue is
      none of your business –
      (Prov 14:10)

11. Be silent When you are
      tempted to tell an
      outright lie – (Prov 4:24)

12. Be silent If your words
      will damage someone
      else’s reputation – (Pro

13. Be silent If your words
      will damage a friendship
      – (Prov 16:28)

14. Be silent When you are
      feeling critical – (James

15. Be silent If you can’t say
       it without screaming it –
      (Prov 25:28)

16. Be silent If your words
      will be a poor reflection
      of the Lord or your
      friends and family – (1 Pt

17. Be silent If you may  
       have to eat your words
       later – (Prov 18:21)

18. Be silent If you have
       already said it more
       than one time  – (Prov

19. Be silent When you are
      tempted to flatter a
      wicked person – (Prov

20. Be silent When you are
      supposed to be working
      instead – (Prov 14:23)



Credit: Georgina via WhatsApp

This is a tough one. What will be your choice?

One day, during an evening class for adults, the Psychology Teacher entered the class and told students, “Let’s all play a game!” “ What Game?”
The Teacher asked one of the students to volunteer. A lady, Adiza came forward.

The Teacher asked her to write 30 names of most important people in her life on blackboard. Adiza wrote names of her family members, relatives, friends, her colleagues and her neighbours.

The Teacher told her to erase 3 names that Adiza considered most unimportant. Adiza erased names of her colleagues. The Teacher again told her to delete 5 more names. Adiza erased her neighbour’s names.

This went on until there were just four names left on the blackboard. These were names of her mother, father, husband and the only son. The entire class became silent realizing that this wasn’t a game anymore for Adiza alone.

Now, The Teacher told her to delete two more names. It was a very difficult choice for Adiza. She unwillingly deleted her parents names. “Please delete one more” said the Teacher. Adiza became very nervous and with trembling hands and tears in her eyes she deleted her son’s name. Adiza cried painfully.

The Teacher told Adiza to take her seat. After a while Teacher asked “why your husband?? The parents are the ones that nurtured you, and the son is the one you gave birth to? And you can always find another husband!” Total silence in the class. Everyone was curious to know her response.

Adiza calmly and slowly said, “One day my parents will pass away before me. My son may also leave me when he grows old, for his studies or business or whatever reason. The only one who will truly share his entire life with me, is my Husband”.

All the students stood up and applauded for her for sharing this truth of life.

Always value your life partner, it’s not only for husbands but wives as well. Those reading this and have made up your mind to cheat on your partners be careful. Many too already in the act. Please look behind and turn around for your marriage and/or relationship will be better and happier when the dust settles. Remember you started it and and you can end it.

Cherish him/her because he/she is going to be the one you will ever need one day.

Partners too be willing to forgive because it is spiritually backed by the:

Qur ‘an:
(Everything in the heavens and everything in the earth belongs to Allah. He forgives whoever He wills and punishes whoever He wills. Allah is Ever -Forgiving, Most Merciful. (Surat Al ‘Imran, 129)

and also by the

(For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you: Matthew 6:14 KJV)

NB: From the internet but modified

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